Reasons Why Forgiveness Is Important — Sahilsharmablogs

Sahil Sharma
10 min readApr 18, 2021

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Today we are going to discuss about the benefits of forgiveness in our lives and the reasons why forgiveness is important for ourselves. Forgiving people is a divine quality but practically it is difficult to forgive anyone. And when someone cheats on us, then it becomes a horrifying problem for us.

We need several things to live a beautiful life; even materialistic things play an important role in running our life smoothly. Similarly, emotions of the mind are the most important elements for living a happy life. We have to maintain a proper balance between the eternal and materialistic illusions to clear the vision of beautiful life.

If this balance gets disturbs, we suffer in life. In many of our articles, I have discussed that materialistic achievements do not make us happy, but still, we have to maintain the balance between them. Materialistic achievements play a vital role in the proper maintaining of bodily activities.

Mind is the master of our life, and if we want to become the master of our life, we have to become the master of our mind. Otherwise, we will become slaves to it, and this stage is very dangerous. This will ruin our entire lifestyle and peace of mind.

It has control over our emotions, feelings, and life decisions. And it is a very complex creation of nature. It is very difficult to control our mind, but with regular practice, we can control it. To control your mind you have to follow strict rules with consistency and determination.

Why we forgive others is an important concept that everyone should understand. Until you know the positive and negative effects of forgiveness, you will feel skeptical of forgiving others. But when your mind is clear with all doubts you will forgive them.

Forgiveness brings more positivity in your life, this is the most beneficial point of forgiveness and when you do not forgive, it will dwell more and more negativity in your mind, the worst negative point about forgiveness.

Anger is the reason why we find it difficult to forgive others; we feel angry because of our impatience and intolerant behaviour. When our senses do not get their sense objects, it creates anger in our mind and it gives rise to greed and many bad habits in us.

If we do not control our anger, it will ruin our relationship with our friends and surroundings. When we get angry, we lose our temper and forget all the positivity about the other person. Wrath destroys our beautiful relationships with people due to a temporary impression.

Wrath and forgiveness are opposite to each other. And a person, who needs peace in his life, must choose forgiveness. He knows the importance of forgiveness and implements it in his life, to enjoy its eternal results. Our mind thinks more and more about the pain until we try to forget it by ourselves. The pain will get intensified by our memory of that hurt repeatedly.

Forgiveness is important in life for many reasons. Forgiveness teaches us the real meaning of life, which means that attachment to people and surroundings can bring misery in the future. Attachments is the path to a dissatisfied and envious life.

Attachment gives us the temporary and fake enjoyment. Our illusion makes us indulge in fake enjoyments. Such thirst for indulgence will never be satisfied because it comes due to our unstable senses. Senses always revolve around their sense objects to gratify them, but when we control our senses, we become distasteful towards those sensory objects. This will only happen when we raise the level of our consciousness.

We are always entangled in the duality of this materialistic life until our mind becomes clear about the eternal truth of life. These dualities are not permanent, they change as weather changes. To tolerate such appearances and disappearances of the materialistic illusion, we have to acquire the quality of detachment.

Detachment is the process leading to liberation; it helps in controlling our senses and cleanse our hearts with negative emotions and feelings. Detachment helps in abstaining senses from their sense objects. It will maintain the balance between material and eternal happiness.

Dr. Robert Enright from the University of Wisconsin-Madison founded the International Forgiveness Institute and is considered the initiator of forgiveness studies. He developed a 20-Step Process Model of Forgiveness. Recent work has focused on what kind of person is more likely to be forgiving.

A longitudinal study showed that people who were generally more neurotic, angry, and hostile in life were less likely to forgive another person even after a long time had passed. Specifically, these people were more likely to still avoid their transgressor and want to enact revenge upon them two and a half years after the transgression.

To restrain the materialistic illusion to drive you away from your supreme goal, you must acquire the divine qualities prescribed by God in their holy scriptures. The qualities of forgiveness, honesty, truthfulness, cleanliness are the godly qualities, which help us is living a happy and peaceful life.

Forgiveness is an essential component for maintaining a healthy relationship with people. Forgiveness helps in maintaining the level of empathy, love, hatred and jealousy in our heart.

Everyone is unique on this planet. And their way of thinking also differs, but we have to live together on this earth. We have to learn to compromise with some situations. Becoming the winner every time is not the purpose of life.

Losing a battle for a better cause is also a sign of greatness. When there is love and compassion for people in our hearts, we will not feel sad losing some time. And eventually, when the feeling of love and compassion gets deluded by the materialistic illusion, it gets converted into lust and anger. Lust is never going to be satisfied, and it is in our hands to control our mind in the search of lust.

People make themselves depress by keeping the grudges in their heart. These grudges are similar to rust which can spoil iron. Similarly, if you do not remove it from your heart, it will annoy you more and more, and gradually make a hell out of your life.

Become courageous to remove such feelings by forgiving others. Learn to love yourself, you are the only one who is responsible for all the ups and downs of your life. No one is going to fix the broken parts of your heart, this is your responsibility to think and care for yourself.

The more you feel courage in your heart; it will be an easy process to overcome pain. And forgiveness will help in purifying your heart and mind.

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So today we will discuss the importance of forgiveness and why it is necessary for our life. We will also discuss some effective reasons why forgiveness is important for ourselves and others and also what benefits we get from this.

So here we are going to discuss the most genuine reasons why should we forgive others or ourselves

21+ Reasons Why Forgiveness is Important in Life

These tips will help you know why forgiving is important in life and how it is beneficial for you. Let’s discuss them in detail…

Peaceful mind

Mind is the cause of success and failures in our life. It is the master of our life, we have to take care of it. If our minds remain calm and focused, it will make us successful. Our mind becomes exaggerated by the thoughts and feelings pervading it. Some thoughts are very harmful to our mental health such as hatred, stress, and jealousy.

Similarly, Forgiveness is a quality that is contrary to the above qualities, which helps our mind to filter the negative thoughts and emotions out of the mind and relieve it by removing all of the negative emotions. Forgiveness associates with the joy and the peaceful nature of our mind.

To stay happy

To be happy you have to achieve simplicity. It is said: simple living high thinking, you have to follow this principle in life. When someone hurts us, we get depressed and dwell hate, envy, disappointment, revenge in our hearts. All these feelings will make us more sad.

To keep our mind calm here, we have to forgive the person. Forgiving him/her will help you regain your personal power. Forgiveness is hard to offer, but it is a very relieving process. Forgiveness associates with happiness and peace.

To forget the pain

It is necessary to forget the pain of hurt. We should not keep this in our mind all the time; it will haunt us all time. It seems difficult to forget when someone hurts us but it is necessary for you. There is no impact of keeping the grudge in your heart, caused by the offender.

He is free but to free yourself from such painful emotions or memory, you have to muster up enough courage to forgive them. By forgiving you remove the grudges from your heart, and then it became easy to forget that pain.

To understand people

Sometimes people hurt you unintentionally, and a misunderstanding can be a nuisance for you. Try to understand the matter, before you react to it. Try to keep yourself in other’s shoe for better understanding of the misconception.

But whether intentionally or unintentionally, they have hurt you, you have to forgive them. You forgive them for yourself, to maintain your mental peace. When they will realize their mistake they will be sorry to you and this will make your bonding stronger.

For better relationship

Love is the root of any relationship and to maintain a healthy relationship, we have to follow some qualities that are associated with love that is forgiveness, truthfulness, honesty, etc. When our partner cheats on us; it is a heartbreaking process.

But there are two choices for you, whether to overcome the emotional infidelity or to suffer. Forgiveness is the process of overcoming it. It will take time to forgive the emotional cheating but over time, it helps to remove the negativity for the other person.

Enhance your personality

Common men follow the actions of great personalities. If someone hurt us, and we hurt them back, there is no difference between us and that person. Revenge does not compensate for our loss. To compensate we have other ways, but to remove hatred from the heart, there is only one way — FORGIVENESS.

Forgiving people shows that you have control over your emotions and you are full of positivity, which will make you a great personality. When you understand forgiveness truly, it becomes easy to bear emotional pain and which makes you stronger. Forgiveness is an essential trait of a personality; it shows that we are more inclined towards positivity in life.

To bring change

Life is the process of continuous change. And these changes may be sometimes favorable and sometimes unfavorable. But we have to face it, there is no other choice. if our mind is trained enough to accept the changes, then we will be not affected by any negative impact of change.

To change your mind attitude for a happy life, you must acquire the quality forgiveness. When you start forgiving people in your life, it will gradually make you happy and you will love this change. To bring positive change in life, remove all the negative emotions from your mind. Develop love and compassion in your heart to comfortably adapt to any change.

To focus more on goals

Life is meaningless without goals. Everyone has some particular goal in life, for that they do hard work and know their potential. Failure and success are the results based on our hard work. The duration of hard work to achieve any goal has not been defined; it is the power of determination that forces us to go beyond our limits.

The way to success is always hard but there is some divine power within us that leads us to the end of the path. Frustration, envy, immortality, hatred etc. are the obstacles on the path of success. They make us feel pain and discourage ourselves to give up on the way, but love, honesty, forgiveness, etc. are the divine power that enables us to fight with the obstacles and make us the winner.

Heal yourself

Forgiveness is the process of healing. Every wound should be cured. Similarly, when someone hurts us, we feel depressed by them, and to overcome it we have to cure it. And forgiveness is the only healing process to heal mental wounds.

If you do not forgive others, the wound will become more painful. Forgive all the wrongs of others; it will be more beneficial for us. Because when someone hurts you, we feel angry to hurt them back, but this is not the procedure to overcome hatred.

Firstly, you have to forgive them to heal your pain and being normal, and you will see, by forgiving them that your anger for them will vanish and the feeling of revenge will also vanish.

Remove toxic thoughts or emotions

Anger is the most toxic emotion that dwells in our hearts. It is like a burning emotion that burns all our values and morals in our hearts. A person in anger loses his stability of mind; it acts like poison for our mind. It increases blood pressure, hypertension which is not good for our health.

Anger comes when we do not fulfill our lustful propensities and it develops hatred for us and others. A person in anger blames others for all his mistakes and bad outcomes.

To love yourself

Love yourself; do not become so harsh to yourself. Everyone can make a mistake, there is no bad thing to be felt when we have made a mistake. If you have done a mistake, learn from it and improve it to not repeat it in the future. To err is human to forgive is divine believe in this quote.

Do not get depressed when people criticize of for being you, you should focus on yourself. Focus on self-growth; it is the only thing that will make our life happy and prosperous.

To know the reason

Do not hate people for doing mistakes or hurting you, until you truly know the reason behind it. Keep yourself in other’s shoes to look into the matter with real opinion. Look at it from another person’s point of view.

Perhaps if you were in such a situation, you will also do what they did to you. Try to understand their intention behind hurting you. If there is no bad intention to hurt you, you should definitely forgive them. Keeping hatred in such circumstances is like doing a mistake.

To become humble

Humility is also one of the divine qualities that God has prescribed for his devotees. When we feel humility in our hearts, we will never try to hurt anyone. We will always spread love and affection in the surroundings. Everyone loves to make friendship with a humble and honest person. Such people will increase your possibility of success at a higher rate.

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Originally published at https://sahilsharmablogs.com on April 18, 2021.

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